| Finding somebody with whom you would like to be in a committed relationship is difficult, but making the relationship last may be even harder. No relationship is without conflict. The way in which we handle these conflict situations will be the determinants of our personalities. Some marriages will endure harder challenges and this causes them to grow strong together or it forces them apart. Then there are the families that face large conflicts that happen due to children getting older. Regardless of the cause, conflict is unavoidable and we all have to face it sooner or later. Learning to solve conflicts and working on the relationship using diverse tactics is essential to save the relationship.
Evolutionary scientists examined "mate retention tactics" in American men and ladies and found out these strategies include being overly watchful and threatening violence. Different gender strategies to save relationships were revealed.
To evaluate traits admired in partners and how they save relationships, researchers of the University of Texas carried out a survey of 214 married people.
Men, more than ladies, admitted that they ill-used their social status and financial success as a tactic to keep their mate interested in them, reported the psychologists. Men also reported to keep their spouses interested by promising changes and threatening sexual betrayal.
Ladies were also more likely than men to take care of their physical appearance as a strategy to keep their mate interested.
As for infidelity, it was discovered that if a husband suspected that his wife was cheating on him, he would try to keep his wife from public activities, threaten punishment and criticize other men. Surprisingly, women who suspected their husbands of infidelity did not work on the marriage any harder than those without suspicions.
Unfortunately, some male strategies included some minor forms of physical abuse of spouses, said the psychologists. For instance, in an earlier survey, 72% of women requiring medical care reported that their husbands limited their contact with family members and friends, wanted to know the ladies' whereabouts and insulted ladies verbally. |
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